Parenting

I'm not a parent, I don't have any god-children, and I don't think I'm good with children. So read below at your own loss.

Being angry at your children and being angry at their wrong actions are two different things.

Being angry at your children is when you're angry and you're releasing your anger toward your children. I think that's damaging toward your children especially when they're at a young age. You're introducing hate toward your children. When there's more hate, there's less love. As a parent, you want to only love your children without any hate.

However, being angry at their wrong action is a necessary part of being a parent. If a child does something wrong, I think it's necessary to introduce hate toward that wrong action. For instance, if a child hits another person other than in self-defense, the parent needs to be angry at that action. The child also needs to learn that there are consequences to bad behaviour. Since most child will not understand the intricacies of social repercussion, morality, etc., the child needs to be punished as an introduction to consequences of bad behaviour. I will not say too much on types of punishments, but just enough to make the children understand and without harming the children physically.

This discplines will introduce hate toward wrong actions. When there's more hate, there's less love. So there will be less love of doing the wrong things.

And the same time, we want to introduce more love of good actions. When a child does something good, a reward is needed. This will introduce more love for good things. When there's less hate, there's more love. The child will love doing good things more.

Now repeat after me:
When there's more hate, there's less love
When there's more love, there's less hate
Where there's more hate, there's less love
Where there's more love, there's less hate

Do that 70 times 7.

So, why I suddenly write this post? I have no idea. Just came back from a bar watching my friend's band. I take no responsibility of my words nor my actions after the first drink.