life experiences

I just read a blog that touched my heart. It's written by a girl, so it has a girl's point of view. I translate:

every relationship that ends in a break-up, changes the girl's personality a little. Either she becomes crazy, liberal, or democrat. Although the girl may comes back to "normal", there's something in her that made her different than before. The wound is too deep and makes a scar that will make her not as before

That's really a grim way to look at life experiences. In this particular case, love.

Life brings many experiences, both good and bad. Bad life experience can give you a deep wound. It could be love, friendship, religious, politics; you name it.

There was a time when I felt betrayed by many of my close friends. They didn't care whether I live or die. That gave me a really deep wound and for a while, I'm very cautious about making friends. But I realized that I have the power to learn from that bad experience. Instead of letting that bad experience hurting me, I could become wiser and more understanding. Although it's not easy, I do have that option, I'm taking it, and I'm still learning from it.
There was another time where I was really hurt by a girl. I had a grim look at love for quite a long while. But I'm learning from that too.

As long as we have our memories, the scar that life gives will always leave a mark. However, that scar mark doesn't have to hurt. It can help us to become more mature, wiser, and more gentle towards others. On the other side, it can also make us pessimistic, cynical, and cold toward others. We have a choice. One is harder than the other. In this case, the road less traveled is harder but bears more fruit.

I learned from my bad experiences that life pain, especially when it's close to you, really hurts. Learning from that, I do not want others to experience these pains. But if they do, I want them to know that they have options. And when they take the more difficult option, they could be a better person. It's hard, but it's not impossible. And if you're a Christian, I'm sure you've learned that you can learn about love through pain and suffering.

I do not want to make this blog to be too long. But for whatever its worth, I hope this helps others.