Judging a book by its cover
Gotta hand it to Tasia. Her post inspired me to write this. http://tasiasaja.blogspot.com/2006/11/aneh.html
Who says you can't judge a book by its cover? If I'm going to a bookstore, I'm going to try to find the book I'm looking for by the title on the cover. If I'm looking a computer book, and I saw a book titled "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", I'm not going to pick up that book and assume the content will be about mvc design in object oriented software development.
If I wear gangsta clothing and act like a gangsta, I can't complain that people treat me as if I'm in a gang. I presented myself like a gang member. It would be dumb if a cop saw me and doesn't check me out. I look like a gang member, I act like a gang member, so... I must NOT be a gang member???
If you look like a nice person, I would have to assume you're a nice person. And if you look like a not-so-nice person, then I wouldn't be wrong to avoid you. I have no other way of knowing. It would be wrong of me to stick to my assumption if other facts come to prove otherwise.
Yes, presentation counts.
So can you judge a book by its cover? Sure you can. Just don't stick to your judgement too strictly. There are hidden treasures inside books that may have ugly covers, as well as there are hidden rotten stuff inside books that may have shiny, glossy covers.
And if anyone is about to complain about equality, of course I know all books are created equal. All are valuable. But some books are more valuable to me. Obviously, I'm going to choose my family and friends over some stupid terrorists. And of course I will choose Jennifer Aniston all the time. My point is . . . wait . . . what's my point? Oh yeah...
My point is: I will always choose Jennifer Aniston. So Jen, when you're free let me know.
posted by Fountain of Useless Information at 12:54 AM
9 Comments:
hahahahaha.....mario, thanks for such an inspiring posting :P
12:41 PM
Hi anonymous. I'm glad you like it. I think it's pretty obvious. All books should have Jennifer Aniston on the cover.
9:51 PM
Hyeeiii Maaarr!!<:-D
Not only it's overdue for you to write this kind of blog, but you just called my name to the stand... u mentioned my homie's (John Gray) book, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus!<:-D That's my book! Wht are u doin with my book??:D:D:D
So we have come to a topic discussion regarding first impressions abt our sorrounding, yes?
That saying of 'Do Not Judge A Book By It's Cover' goes a long way, I think. It is natural that we form our first impressions when we meet someone. That is the reason it's important to leave things on a positive note as much as we can on our every day encounters with people because we do leave certain impressions in people's minds. And yes, good presentation and how well we carry ourselves make a big difference. People do not normally have malicious intent to place judgment on others. We just sometimes are not able to operate otherwise, that is, to completely ignore what we see and what we remember from our interactions with others. So if we have certain initial impressions abt someone or a situation, it is fine. I'd leave room for more information to come about when another opportunity arises that will give me a more accurate picture of that person/situation. And I'd be open about re-evaluating my first impressions. My next encounter will hopefully support them. Of course there are times when it will challenge/question them. As long as we are open for re-evaluation, then we are fine because almost nothing in this world is absolute; rather, almost everything is relative. The point is: getting to know someone is an ongoing, sometimes complex, process. Time is of the essence and nothing will substitute how much time we spend with him/her. We are entitled to our opinions about others, but hopefully we keep an open mind and understand that our views about people may change as we develop a relationship with them, whether in a personal or business setting. That's what counts!
We all live by certain assumptions in this world. That is why we go to school and work, for example, because we assume that we will live in the near future. We make assumptions based on the past history and life experiences. To make judgment on people solely based on what we see without consideration is dangerous. The saying: 'If it looks like a dog and it barks like a dog, then it must be a dog' is true in most cases. I understand your example about the gang member and how s(he) is treated as one. I'd take it a little furher. Depending on the setting, I'd handle each situation as appropriate. A security guard may 'inspect' someone who 'appears' to be a gang member if s(he) is in an unfamiliar territory because s(he) appears to be 'out of place.' But if s(he) is in his familiar territory and is not doing any 'suspicious' activities, then he may be left alone.
Let's get another example that most people would say abt others when we first meet them. Most people, after the first meeting and under normal circumstances, will say that s(he) is nice. Of course, no one is a criminal here or has a history of criminalistic activities, I hope!:D I am referring to our dear circle of friends.
Now what about making/pursuing friendship based on first impressions?
I think that when it comes to friendship, we do make an active choice; meaning that we do not become friends with someone by default or by accident. Friendship between people may start from the fact that they have common grounds such as similar interests/hobbies/beliefs/philosophy in life. There's friendship based on attraction, as well, which is then open for either party to pursue into something else. While any kind of friendship between two people needs to be natural and mutual, rather than forced; it also requires some effort, time and energy because there needs to be some mental and/or emotional connection being established in true friendship, I think. Im going off tangent here with regards to friendship. Let's safe it for another discussion!:D
So Mar, have you ever thought of pursuing Jen? I am not sure what the status is between her and Vince. Let's check into, shall we?:D:D:D And of course, keep me posted on the development between the two of u, please!<:-D
Cheers now!!
Ria<:-D
11:30 PM
so ... Ria ... when are you gonna start your own blog ? It's long overdue, too :-)
1:41 AM
Ria! That's right! We had a discussion on that book of yours! LOL.
And Jen is actually my girlfriend. She just doesn't know it yet. Sshhh...
1:59 AM
Yaaa Sop...
Here I am trying to get a blog going..Just thinking abt a subject matter worth discussing ya know:D:D:D any IDEAS dudes & dudettes??<:-D
11:00 PM
wohoo!! Just suggestions: enjoying the moments, living your life, being yourself, men are from mars & women are from venus, how men & women approach life, etc...
see where that leads you :)
11:52 PM
*waiting for ci ria promosi blog nya..
anyways.. yap..
hahahahahahhahahahaha... *Cant really say anything regarding this post.. just wanna laugh..
12:44 AM
Hyeeiii Peeps!! I got one! I got one! Yeaaahh!:P.. just trying to figure out the luvlie functions in here... <:-D Im kinda new at this so pls bear with me... thanks for all your support tho! U guys are the greatest!!
Ria:D
2:14 AM
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